At 10, children already understand a lot, but stability and safety are still very important to them. Can you share a bit about your daughter’s current relationship with each parent? What is her personality like — does she tend to share her feelings openly, or keep them inside?
Here are some key points that may help you prepare for the conversation:

1. Choose a calm moment. Try to talk in a relaxed setting, when you have enough time to be together without rush or distractions.
2. Be honest but gentle. Explain what’s happening in simple, clear words, avoiding unnecessary details about your disagreements. For example: “Mom (or Dad) and I have decided to live separately because this will be better for both of us.”
3. Emphasize that it’s not her fault. Children often look for reasons within themselves. Gently and repeatedly reassure her that this decision is entirely the responsibility of the adults, and she had no influence on it.
4. Reassure her of both parents’ love. She needs to know that your relationship with her hasn’t changed, and she remains equally loved and important to both of you.
5. Be ready for her emotions and questions. She may feel anxiety, anger, sadness, or confusion. Give her space to express these feelings — whether through words, drawings, or questions. Simply being there, listening, and offering comfort is key.
6. Give clear, concrete details about the future. Explain what will change in her daily life: where she’ll live, when and how she’ll see each parent. Specific plans help reduce anxiety.
7. Stay open for future conversations. She may not share all her thoughts right away. Show that you’re always ready to return to this topic when she needs.

• How do you feel going into this conversation?
• What questions or concerns do you have yourself?
• Is there something in her daily routine that you’d like to keep unchanged to help her feel more secure?

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Can you share in which situations your daughter most often tells lies? For example, is it related to school, chores, friendships, or something else? It’s very important to understand what drives her behavior — fear of punishment, wanting approval, avoiding unpleasant consequences, or another reason.
At this age, children already know the difference between truth and lies, but they are still learning how to manage emotions and face the results of their actions. Sometimes a child lies not to deceive, but to protect herself or to try out a new social strategy.
Here are some steps to consider:

1. Create an atmosphere where honesty feels safe. Think about how you usually react when you discover she’s done something wrong. Does she feel she can come to you without fear?
2. Explore her feelings. Ask what she felt in the moment she decided to lie — maybe it was anxiety, shame, or uncertainty.
3. Avoid blame or scolding. Instead, try questions like: “What made you choose to say that?” or “What do you think would have happened if you told the truth?”
4. Acknowledge and support honesty. When she does tell the truth, especially if it’s hard for her, show appreciation. This reinforces honesty as something positive.

A reflection for you: have there been times when your daughter admitted something that was difficult for her to say? How did you respond in those moments? This can give valuable clues for shaping an approach that works best for your family.
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This question is very important for understanding your child’s emotional state.
At the age of 3, children are only beginning to learn how to express their feelings and needs with words, and it can be difficult for them to control strong emotions or handle frustration.
Possible reasons your child might hit other children at daycare:

1. Limited vocabulary. At this age, children may not yet have enough words to express hurt, anger, or disappointment. Physical actions can feel like the only way to be heard.
2. Attention-seeking. Sometimes kids notice that hitting immediately brings adult attention — even if it’s negative. This can unintentionally reinforce the behavior.
3. Imitating others. Children often copy what they see around them. Your child may have observed this behavior from peers or even adults.
4. Challenges with self-regulation. Self-control is still developing at three. Fatigue, hunger, or overstimulation can easily trigger outbursts.
5. Stress or life changes. Events like moving, the arrival of a sibling, or changes at home or daycare can affect a child’s behavior.

To better understand, observe when it usually happens:

• Is it during play with toys?
• When sharing space or attention?
• When the teacher is busy?

Also notice how the teacher and other children react. Does your child have close friends in the group? These details can help uncover the underlying cause.
It’s also worth reflecting on how you respond to anger or aggression at home. Sometimes small adjustments in your own reactions can help your child learn calmer ways to express feelings.

How does your child behave in other settings, and how do you usually support him when he’s upset or frustrated?
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